You Don’t Have to Do It All: A Holiday Reminder You Don’t Have to Do It All: A Holiday Reminder
The holiday season is so magical. Twinkling lights, cozy gatherings, heavy blankets, and delicious smells wafting from the kitchen. But let’s be real: for many moms, it’s also a little exhausting. Between buying the gifts, wrapping them beautifully, planning all the festive meals, cleaning the house (so many times) for guests, and making sure everyone else is having a lovely holiday, the magic can start to feel like, well... a whole lot of work.
If you’ve found yourself buried under a pile of to-do lists while everyone else is resting by the fire, this post is for you. Here’s the truth you might need to hear today: you really don’t have to do it all.
The Myth of Supermom
Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that a “good mom” is the one who handles everything without breaking a sweat. But let’s be real—no one is handing out medals for exhausting yourself.
We know that you want it to be special for everyone. That drive to make everything lovely is hard-wired into so many of us. But here’s the thing: the only thing you’ll “win” for doing it all alone is the guarantee of being expected to handle it all again next year.
The truth? Supermom is kind of a myth, and trying to live up to it only drains your energy and joy during a season that’s supposed to bring happiness and connection. We can still infuse the magic into this season, wholeheartedly even... without doing absolutely everything else as well.
The Power of Asking for Help
So, we want to offer up an alternative this year: you’re allowed to ask for help.
- Delegate gift-buying or wrapping. Partner up with your spouse, involve your kids, or suggest a family wrapping party. Maybe even divvy up the gift list?
- Take some simple shortcuts. Pre-made pies and store-bought cookies taste just as sweet as homemade ones when shared with love.
- Let others handle parts of the celebration. Ask guests to bring a dish or take charge of cleaning up. Most people are more than happy to help—they just don’t know what you need unless you tell them.
When you delegate and lean on others, you create space for yourself to actually enjoy the holidays. That break you’re craving? It starts with a single, simple request: “Hey, can you help me with this?”
Save Your Energy for the Fun Stuff
Delegating some of the tasks that don’t light you up means you can save your energy for the fun, creative decisions—like picking what color ornaments to put on the tree this year. (What colors are you going with?)
Anyway, by freeing yourself up, you’re making space to enjoy the holidays in the ways that matter most. We tend to believe that requires us to be present.
Take a Moment for Yourself
Sometimes, the best way to recharge is by stepping away from the chaos altogether. Brew a cup of tea, sit down, and let the world carry on without you for a moment. (We might be biased, but we recommend something calming like our Family Immunity Tea—because everyone deserves a moment of serenity, especially moms.)
The holidays are about connection and joy, not perfection. Let go of the pressure to do it all. Say yes to the help waiting right in front of you, and give yourself permission to enjoy the season fully. You and your family will have warm memories of laughing and sharing rather than you standing at the kitchen sink alone.
This year, Birds & Bees Teas hopes to rewrite the script. You don’t have to carry the weight of everything on your shoulders. You’re a mom, not a miracle worker—and your presence and joy are the best gifts you can give your family.
And if you’re looking for a little extra encouragement, tune into the Manifesting Clarity Podcast for heartfelt conversations and practical advice to help you navigate life’s ups and downs with ease. It's like a warm hug in podcast form.
So, try to take some deep breaths throughout this holiday season and remember: You don’t have to do it all.
The holiday season is so magical. Twinkling lights, cozy gatherings, heavy blankets, and delicious smells wafting from the kitchen. But let’s be real: for many moms, it’s also a little exhausting. Between buying the gifts, wrapping them beautifully, planning all the festive meals, cleaning the house (so many times) for guests, and making sure everyone else is having a lovely holiday, the magic can start to feel like, well... a whole lot of work.
If you’ve found yourself buried under a pile of to-do lists while everyone else is resting by the fire, this post is for you. Here’s the truth you might need to hear today: you really don’t have to do it all.
The Myth of Supermom
Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that a “good mom” is the one who handles everything without breaking a sweat. But let’s be real—no one is handing out medals for exhausting yourself.
We know that you want it to be special for everyone. That drive to make everything lovely is hard-wired into so many of us. But here’s the thing: the only thing you’ll “win” for doing it all alone is the guarantee of being expected to handle it all again next year.
The truth? Supermom is kind of a myth, and trying to live up to it only drains your energy and joy during a season that’s supposed to bring happiness and connection. We can still infuse the magic into this season, wholeheartedly even... without doing absolutely everything else as well.
The Power of Asking for Help
So, we want to offer up an alternative this year: you’re allowed to ask for help.
- Delegate gift-buying or wrapping. Partner up with your spouse, involve your kids, or suggest a family wrapping party. Maybe even divvy up the gift list?
- Take some simple shortcuts. Pre-made pies and store-bought cookies taste just as sweet as homemade ones when shared with love.
- Let others handle parts of the celebration. Ask guests to bring a dish or take charge of cleaning up. Most people are more than happy to help—they just don’t know what you need unless you tell them.
When you delegate and lean on others, you create space for yourself to actually enjoy the holidays. That break you’re craving? It starts with a single, simple request: “Hey, can you help me with this?”
Save Your Energy for the Fun Stuff
Delegating some of the tasks that don’t light you up means you can save your energy for the fun, creative decisions—like picking what color ornaments to put on the tree this year. (What colors are you going with?)
Anyway, by freeing yourself up, you’re making space to enjoy the holidays in the ways that matter most. We tend to believe that requires us to be present.
Take a Moment for Yourself
Sometimes, the best way to recharge is by stepping away from the chaos altogether. Brew a cup of tea, sit down, and let the world carry on without you for a moment. (We might be biased, but we recommend something calming like our Family Immunity Tea—because everyone deserves a moment of serenity, especially moms.)
The holidays are about connection and joy, not perfection. Let go of the pressure to do it all. Say yes to the help waiting right in front of you, and give yourself permission to enjoy the season fully. You and your family will have warm memories of laughing and sharing rather than you standing at the kitchen sink alone.
This year, Birds & Bees Teas hopes to rewrite the script. You don’t have to carry the weight of everything on your shoulders. You’re a mom, not a miracle worker—and your presence and joy are the best gifts you can give your family.
And if you’re looking for a little extra encouragement, tune into the Manifesting Clarity Podcast for heartfelt conversations and practical advice to help you navigate life’s ups and downs with ease. It's like a warm hug in podcast form.
So, try to take some deep breaths throughout this holiday season and remember: You don’t have to do it all.
